All of us — whatever our roots, profession, or purpose — have a natural, innate, or cultivated ability to express our feelings, or resolve our angst, while releasing ourselves from the fetters of rejection, if not denial. The latter, whether they are pleasant or unpleasant, may not be as easy as they appear to be on the surface. Yet, the fact is: the more accepting, creative, observant and conscious we are, or proffer to be, the more tangible our approach to life, experience and thoughtful awareness will be. The moment we are able to embrace and articulate such a notation, we bring forth a sense of rationale through a reflex mechanism — of being listened to and engaged in a process that helps us to develop accommodating views, or perspectives, to our own and others’ attitudes.
Most everyday events, family situations, or stresses, foster negative as well as positive thoughts; they are not earth-shaking by any means. They also do not require the fulcrum of our intelligence, expertise, or conscious awareness, to recognising and living with them, and getting over them, or managing them as a part of our existence. The more consciously aware we are of our emotional responses, or more organised with our expressions, or feelings, even in highly charged emotional and complex situations, the better we will — by a quirk of our own innate balance — be able to handle them with ease, or personalised touch.
All of us are gifted with a unique endowment — call it our balanced, yet buoyant emotional talent, or attribute. It often brings to us, and others around, peace, happiness, success, and fulfilment. It provides us with the power to feel free to express oneself, while synchronising our good thoughts with fertile, pleasant, effective and harmonious action. This is worth its weight in pure gold, silver, or whatever you’d deem fit to designate the positive outcome.
The best thing one could ever do to keep this idea going and at one’s beck and call is to indulge in “self-speak,” or conversing in sublime silence within the deep recesses of our mind — for a few minutes every day, or whenever the time permits. There should be no distractions — be it the cacophonous TV, the piercing ringtone of your mobile phone, and the like. Yes, this whole premise is delicate — because, you’d, in your self-imposed stillness, get wobbled, or aroused from your soliloquy. Yet, the entire mechanism will work, provided you are conscious of its sublime meaning, or consequence, and shut out extraneous, or unwelcome, factors that may disturb your quiet excursion.
The more you think to oneself, the better the whole purpose. As philosopher Plato explained: thinking is the talking of the soul with itself. It leads to a harmonious state — of self-awareness, or subjective mindfulness, that holds our pragmatic lock and key to objectivity. When we talk to oneself, now and then, or as and when possible, all of us would be able to hear our “echo” of thoughts, feelings, and expressions — and, of others too. Yet, it boils down to one thing — of reason and our ability to maintain distance from the object of inquiry and act without assuming knowledge. This provides us with a mode of living not hurtful to ourselves. This has important epistemic ramifications — the ability to know, or distinguish, as Plato suggested, or seamlessly connect our aptitude and decipher the distinction between the subject and object. This is what “walking the soulful talk” from deep within is all about — of separating the subject and object, or the chaff from the grain, with the use of amplified self-awareness and calm, soundless contemplation.
(The writer is a wellness physician, independent researcher and author)