What is it that propels us to persist, surmount impediments, or hold-ups, that subjugate the not-so-organised and less steadfast folks? Self-discipline. When one is self-disciplined, they are able to deal with every day difficulties, challenges, or pressures, better. They also emerge stronger than before at every step.
Each of us, born or unborn, is endowed with such a quality. It's only a matter of understanding it that is imperative. Yet, the fact remains that if one does not grasp all accessible resources within, they will not be able to call upon the profound spring of will power that enables us to face and overcome adversity, from the word go. While it is agreed that all of us differ from one another considerably in our ability to pull through obstacles, or a folk tale gone unpleasant, there is also a certain irony to the whole context. While some of us are amazingly flexible, others seem to give up when faced with every insignificant disillusionment, or disappointment. Yet, the fact is: most of us dwell somewhere in the midst of the two parallels.
Is there a better way to getting things right and doing things well to wade over problems? Yes, there is — it is simple, also profound. You’d do well to discern and appreciate your aptitude — the ability to pull through in the presence of a blizzard. This attribute sets the podium to optimising your resilience, the power to be what you want to be. To state the obvious — all of us are aware that great comebacks, be it on the job, sports, or politics, are ‘fired’ by large doses of buoyancy and positive thinking, besides affirmative self-talk.
When things are awash with pessimism and negative thinking, it leads to failed outcomes, not comebacks. The reason is crystal clear. When a person overcomes adversity, likewise, they readily exercise self-discipline to think optimistically and purposefully. The ploy, therefore, is you'd use as many dictums as possible to think confidently. For example: “Don't relinquish.” “This too shall pass.” 'Success is about to happen, come what may.” Yet, one thing is fundamental. You've got to envisage a constructive “winding up.” This is the best way to galvanise yourself to use all your resourceful energies and make your opportunities and dreams come true.
There is yet another prompt that is mandatory to keep going. You’d do well not to fritter away time while emoting over a difficult experience, or disastrous result. In other words, you should never welter in hedonism, or self-pity. As Helen Keller expressed so eloquently, “Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world.” What does this connote? That it is only self-discipline that can turnaround our weakness for self-pity. The more self-disciplined we are, the more resilient our ability to transform our disarray into order.
All the same, it must be emphasised that self-discipline is not allied to discipline — or, its allegorical corollaries. It is a component that allows us to develop patience and persistence. When you acquire and channelise the two facets, you are agreeably disposed to put in as much time as possible to achieving your important goals and dreams — be it career or life. You will also begin to think customarily with a positive frame of mind — that every opportunity provides you the key to do doing better, or starting something new, or afresh. It helps you to be realistic, no less, because to make your purpose the objective vanguard in everything you do, you ought to live your life to the full and on your terms.
(The writer is a wellness physician, independent researcher, and author)
Rajgopal Nidamboor